The Kids Are All Right (Lisa Cholodenko, 2010): USA

Reviewed by Addie Rosales. Viewed at The 2011 Santa Barbara International Film Festival.

The Kids Are All Right, directed by Lisa Cholodenko, is a film filled with a good balance of drama and humor. This movie focuses on the ups and downs of a normal family with parents who happen to be a same sex couple; and whose lives are somewhat complicated yet ultimately enriched by the arrival of Paul (Mark Ruffalo), the sperm donor of their children. Annette Benning (Nic) and Julianne Moore (Jules) both give amazing performances as longtime partners and parents.  The chemistry they have with each other and their portrayal as a couple  is believable (minus a few instances)  that anyone  can relate to their hardships and their joys despite  any gender combination.

Humor is seen throughout the movie in different scenes and interactions between the different characters. The part that I found to be most funny was when Nic and Jules jumped to conclusion and thought their son was having a homosexual relationship with his troubled friend Clay (Eddie Hassell). However, I believe the drama over rides the humor once Paul and Jules start a completely innapropriate affair with each other. Laser (Josh Hutcherson), Jules and Nics’ youngest becomes very currious as to who his “bio dad” is, and begs his older sister Joni (Mia Wasikowska) to contact him. When the kids meet up with Paul,I found it a little surprising that Joni seems to be  more excitied and engaged in coversation and curiosity, when she was the one who was hesititant about their meeting. Laser on the other hand is skeptical and almost seems to be angry as you listen to the way he interacts with Paul and the lack of interest he shows. Soon after meeting with Paul,  their mom’s discover what they were up to. Not sure how to handle or feel about the idea of welcoming Paul into their already established family, they finally agree to be opened to the idea and insisted on meeting Paul as well. Nic seemed to have a bigger problem with this due to the fact that she is the strict parent, whereas Jules is a more down to earth, free spirited parent. This is when the trouble really begins, becuase it leads to Jules and Paul’s meeting eachother. As the movie plays on, you soon discover that there was good reason for Nic’s uncertainty when you soon discover Jules and Paul are having an affair. When this occures and carries on throughout the movie it  made me strongly dislike Jullian’s charcater, although I must admit Moore’s performance was outstanding. I couldn’t understand what drove her to  willingly start an intament relationship with Paul. Not only is Jules a lesbian, but she also has  a family and stable life with a woman that loves her. I found it almost disturbing to watch the scense of Paul and Jules’ being together.

After the discovering of Jules and Pauls affair, I felt like Nic’s and Lasers’ reaction were the most believable. Joni seemed to almost be okay with it because she still answers Paul’s phone calls afterward and takes the time to talk to him, only on a few occasions. Annette Benning’s performance was also brilliant. You could really feel the pain she went through after discovering what her wife was up to. I was happy that Paul wasn’t allowed to see their family because of what he did. At the beginning of the movie, before Jules and Paul start seeing each other, you are lead to think his character is someone nice and compassionate. Even though he seems like it at times,  when it comes down to it, the horrible relationship he insists on with Jules completely over rides any good deeds that were done by him. The fact that Nic was able to find it in herself to forgive Jules, even though it took time, really spoke for the love they have with each other and just how strong their bond really is. I believe this film is ultimitaly about the pain, the joy, the loses and gains that can only be discovered through the experience of facing ones’ own self honesty within the context of family relationships.


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